If you spend your life in fear and worry, you’re not living and if you’re not living, then there is no point…
We all live our lives in constant fear, fear of anything and everything. Something that you are scared of may seem really silly to the next person and ‘vice versa’. Our fears limit us to doing what it is we want, it limits us to try new things and experience events, all because we are scared of the consequences, we are scared of the ‘what if’s”.
At times some people are confident and fearless, for example myself. I sometimes say that I am not even scared of death itself, but I know that is a lie. Because I am scared of many things, and I’m not just talking spiders, I’m talking life altering fears. Fears that stop me from doing what I really want to do. There are so many things that I believe would make me happy, but I never go out and try it, or never put anything at risk, because I am scared of the consequences, I fear my decisions, because it could alter my future, my path, we have programmed ourselves so much as to what life should be, that we are scared to make moves, we are too busy trying to achieve the ‘perfect life’ that we don’t stop and consider our happiness.
Death is a scary thing, and it is even worse to lose someone who is close to your heart, to lose someone that has touched your soul, who has made you smile, who you have memories with. It is almost impossible to imagine a life without them. Why should you? Someone you love so much surely cannot pass away. But we do encounter loss. There is nothing you can do about it, it will stick with you for the rest of your life, you will always feel that sharp pain in your heart, or the big lump in your throat every time that person crosses your mind. You will always wonder ‘what would I be doing right now if that person was still here?’, and it’s not fair. But you cannot let the death of someone be the death of you. Is that what they would want? For you to suffer, cry and stop living your life? Well I don’t know, I cannot answer that, it is something each individual has to consider and ask themselves, each person lives through a different experience, no two people are the same in feelings, just as no two people are the same in loss.
Each person has a different meaning to someone and this is what truly makes them individual and differs them from everyone else.
So what are we afraid of?
What are we waiting for?
When will you start living your life?
Traveling the world is something I have always wanted to do. In my 20 years I have only ever been to Cyprus and Paris. The reason I haven’t visited many countries, is because every summer holiday I am visiting family in Cyprus, whom already have homes, and it just seems a little less hassle. However, it doesn’t really become a holiday, because you still have to clean, and deal with family (not always bad, but you get my drift). I would love to take 6 months out, to travel Europe, to experience new things, see new sights, and eat new food. It’s a dream of mine.
So why aren’t I?
Well, I will tell you why. Being a young woman, my mum will not let me travel anywhere by myself, let alone a tour of Europe, she insist I take someone with me. Which brings me to my second problem, who do I take with me? I have no one willing to take six months out of their life to join me on a tour of Europe. My only hope is to wait, or visit countries individually instead of taking six months. This does break my heart, and sometimes I think “So what? I’ll go by myself, whatever is going to happen will happen.” But the dangers are endless, but how else are we suppose to get on with our lives if we are taught to be scared before we even leave our front door? Is this really a way to live? So my life cannot start until someone has six months to spare to join me?
So guys, this is my main problem at the moment, meanwhile I will check out different countries and beautiful scenery’s and add them to my bucket list!! Speaking of which, I guess it’s time to start a bucket list, getting older now!!
Have a good day friends,